Just about two years ago, I was a freshman getting ready to go through sorority recruitment. I remember being excited & nervous & wondering what this whole thing was like and which house I would end up in and looking at all the houses’ Instagrams (cause let’s be real, we allll have been there) and trying to gage what houses I might like while simultaneously wondering if the houses would like me. To me, going through rush felt like a whirlwind of emotion; a perfect mix of both excitement and anxiousness.
I know you might be feeling that whirlwind right now. I know you might have overwhelming excitement to get to experience the amazing parts of a sorority while also–despite your best intentions to fight it–wondering, will they like me? How do I prove I’m worthy over this Zoom convo?
If I could tell you one thing I wish I fully knew back then, it would be this:
You are enough just as you are, right where you are. You are far too special to be living your life in the pursuit of being liked. You’ll land right where you’re meant to be, whether that’s in a sorority or elsewhere. And whether or not they like you has nothing to do with how worthy you are. It’ll all be okay, I promise.
You’re already loved. Fully loved. And those unique things about you that make you shine bright? That’s what the world needs. You were made with perfect intention and those things that make you you are so special.
Stay true to you. Whatever that looks like, whatever that talks like, whatever that is passionate about– stay true to it. When you’re true to yourself and who you were made to be, you will find your people; the people who love you for you.
The best piece of advice I ever received before going through rush (that I’ve carried with me these last three years) was to look for the girls I wanted to become more like; the ones I saw helping me reach God’s fullest potential within me. The ones who would love me fully, just as I was, while pushing me to be the best version of myself. The ones who were true to themselves and kind and deeply passionate.
And so, as you go through sorority rush (or really, all of life) I hope you remember this:
Your value doesn’t come from anything you can do or say or prove. You’re enough, just as you are. No sorority or organization or group or single other person could change the innate value within you.
Take a deep breath, have fun, and be your AMAZING self. <3
Fully, truly, you. The world needs it.
Always,
Elle