To the girls going through sorority recruitment:
I was in your shoes just about a year ago. I remember the excitement and anxiousness and overall craziness that comes with the process of joining a sorority. I remember wondering where I would land at the end of my school’s eight day long rush process. I remember hoping & praying that I would find a community of women who inspired & encouraged & loved me just the way I am.
I know you’re anxious. I know how real the nerves can be. But I want to remind you that absolutely no sorority or Greek letters you may wear will ever define the innate worth inside of you. Sororities can be a great tool for community & connection & love & friendship, but our worth does not come from the reputation of the house we belong to on Greek row. Our worth comes from God & God alone.
I encourage you to remind yourself constantly of your worth as you head into this process. There are so many amazing things that happen during recruitment but rejection and feelings of uncertainty and fear are most definitely possible. And in those moments, I would encourage you to once again remind yourself that wherever you land– whether in a sorority or not– it will not define your worth. You are loved & worthy & enough just as you are.
Be yourself. The world needs more of your unique kind of beautiful! We need you to be YOU. Show these women who God designed you to be. Show up as yourself & I promise you will have so much more fun. You will be less exhausted. You will feel more at peace and comfortable in your own skin.
Take care of yourself. Journal, lay down when you get the chance, drink a lot of water, and really soak it all in. Let yourself have some fun as you get to talk to so many incredible new girls.
And finally, I want to share a little piece of advice someone once told me:
Look for the house full of women you want to be more like after your four years of college; the ones who inspire you & who you can see yourself looking up to as role models. Look for the house that loves you for you & not for who they want you to be. Look for the house inside which you feel truly at home.
I took this advice and landed just where I was meant to be. I promise you that no matter the outcome of your sorority recruitment experience, you are truly so, so special. You are seen, known, and valued. You will meet great friends no matter what. And at the end of the day, no Greek letters can define just how freaking incredible you are.
Always,
Elle
P.S. … here’s a lil photo from my first day of recruitment ONE YEAR AGO! Whaaaat?! Time flies, y’all.
